rebeccachai:

josephtsang:

“women are meant to be loved, not understood.”

—oscar wilde. (via quote-book)

good. the first we can do. the second is an impossibility.

men are meant to be respected, not tamed.

—Joseph Tsang

i’m strung on too much caffeine and so i find myself with the energy (which unfortunately demands the time) to address these quotes.

i don’t like it. to be truly loved, i think that women need to be understood. at least to a certain level. it’s not impossible to reasonably understand women. i know. women are rarely reasonable. no matter. however miniscule the ability to reason may be, it must be there nonetheless. or else this woman probably would not have survived long enough for you to want to love her. and then there’s this: the understanding a man needs to have is not primarily why a girl feels a certain way but how she feels in that instance. if you can sympathize or, dare i even say it, empathize, then you’re good. you’ve understood. go right on ahead loving your woman.

and i like joe’s addition. women: respect, don’t tame. they get boring if you tame and then you lose the very thing that caught your eye at the very beginning.

and now, i believe i’m ready to sleep. although, i could talk about man’s inability to understand relating to woman’s penchant to manipulate… too much for now. good night!

good thoughts, becca.  and may i add on that understanding is part of loving, sometimes we can understand sometimes we can’t.  But love is commited to trying.  Love is probably committed to more… not trying to understand all the time, but to continue to grace = grow - sacrifice despite whether we understand or not.  It is unconditional.  But it never ceases trying to get closer and deeper and more intimate and more selfless.  Love never fails.

And thank you for the word about not taming men, Miss Chai.  =)

educate us, teach us, show us, correct us, help us, but inspire us too.  dare us.  and move us to ROAR.  it makes us happy.  =)  haha.

Love&Respect.  the book’s in my brother’s and josh’s hands rite now.  get it, if u want it. =)

vicarious |vīˈkerēəs; vi-|adjective : experienced in the imagination through the feelings or actions of another person : “I could glean vicarious pleasure from the struggles of my imaginary film friends.”

i cant keep up with tumblr, 1000 fb friends, nor catch up with everyone’s life.  If i did, i wouldnt have time to live my own life.  I think i just had an epiphany about some of this.  It’s not giving up on anyone or anything, i think its about being idealistic yet realistic like Jesus was.  Let’s touch as many lives as we can, but not forget to live our own.

=)

with those who are around us now.

i merely asked the question.  but if it meant to you that i inferred he was, then i’m sorry.  I do completely disagree with some of his moral decisions and beliefs, but i’m not trying to rile up people for the sake of riling.  i want feathers ruffled because of truth and lies.  If it’s not a truth, its a lie.  rite?  and im sick of lies, first in my life, second in others.

here’s a tite article that i agree with:

CAPS-LOCK Rhetoric

John Mark Reynolds
Politics
11.21.2009

The best way to get web hits is to say something loudly.

Our discourse is often as subtle as a teenager with a stuck caps key. We don’t just oppose the President’s agenda, but WE STAND AT ARMAGEDDON AND WE BATTLE FOR THE LORD.

While that last line got Teddy Roosevelt some cheers, and T.R. would have made a world-class blogger, it was part of a losing campaign. Extreme rhetoric works to drive traffic, but it does not win many votes.

Of course, Frank Schaeffer will soon blog an apology for helping craft T.R.’s angry theocratic rhetoric through “my creation of the HATEFUL religious right in the mid-eighties.” In fact, Schaeffer’s next book will explain how he crafted Abraham Lincoln and the Republican party’s overt use and exploitation of Evangelicals during the 1860 campaign with America loathing rhetoric and how he now takes all (or most of it) back.

All of which demonstrates that having some rhetorical fun can be fine within limits. Jesus was not afraid of calling powerful people bad names. We needn’t be prudes about it, since a little parody or satire is good for a republic. Putting a pin in the pompous egos of many of our leaders is good for their souls.

Any professor knows the truth of this … since we end up being parodied endlessly. Until you watch an honor student deconstruct your foibles for laughs, you might (on a good day) take yourself too seriously as a teacher.

However, too much CAP-LOCK rhetoric is morally irresponsible.

Why? Some rhetoric is dangerous, because it can be reasonably expected to incite weak minded people to evil deeds. Any calls to violence, even metaphorical violence, against our leaders should be condemned. This is particularly true of the President of the United States. The presidency is a dangerous job in a world full of unhinged people many of whom need no excuse to become dangerous.

Talking too hatefully about the President can be like a man shouting “fire” at a Al-Qaeda convention. It is just reckless and is too likely to be misunderstood.

Lately, I have seen or heard about a few protesters carrying signs about our President that struck me as over the line. President Obama is our head of state and deserves a measure of respect as a respect. He is also engaged in a difficult and challenging job that tends to attract lunatic opposition to any man holding the job.

We need not pity him, he asked for the gig, but we should pray for him. We should also condemn any talk of violence or extremist rhetoric such as comparing Obama to Hitler. The fact that infantile people on the left did the same to Bush is no excuse.

I strongly oppose the President’s politics. He will not get my vote in 2012, but I need not use CAP-LOCK rhetoric to make the case. It is ineffectual and morally wrong. Learning charity in my loyal opposition to the President should not be hard for an evangelical Christian.

After all a gospel that calls us to love our enemies and pray for our persecutors. Loving our President does not mean voting for him, respecting his positions, or treating him with kid gloves. It does mean condemning any hint of violent rhetoric in our presence in strong terms and turning off our CAPS-LOCK key.

no turkey on thanksgiving =(

but lots of family and fun =)

gonna go grab quik dinn, watch UP hd w fam, share about thankfulness, and NERF WAR IT UP!!! hehe

by Dr. James C. Dobson

November 2009

Dear Friends:

I’m sure many of you are aware of the assault on the sanctity of human life that is taking place in our nation’s capitol. It involves outrageous attempts by President Obama and liberals in Congress to force the American people to pay for abortions with our taxes. This very well may occur under the guise of health care, despite the fact that in a recent Gallup survey, 51 percent of our citizens called themselves “pro-life,” the highest number in 15 years.1 More to the point, 67 percent say they do not favor state-funded abortions being included in the proposed health care reform.2 Their views don’t seem to matter. Our politicians appear ready to cram their “culture of death” down our throats.

If direct funding for abortion becomes the law of the land, it will mean countless more babies will be killed and human life itself will be further cheapened. History shows that anything Washington pays for is almost certain to increase in frequency. All that is necessary to verify that fact is to “follow the money.”

You may also have heard that the President said in his speech to a Joint Session of Congress on Sept. 9 that “no federal dollars will be used to fund abortions.”3 We suspected at the time that Mr. Obama’s assurance to the American people was not valid and indeed, that suspicion has now been confirmed. Almost all of the health care proposals put forward so far include public funding for abortion. On multiple occasions, pro-life members in the House and Senate have tried to strip those provisions from bills being considered, but they were voted down by pro-abortion legislators in every instance. As currently proposed, the bills most likely to pass do cover abortions and will mandate federal subsidies to pay for them.

Also in that speech to Congress, the President promised there would be a “conscience clause” that would protect medical personnel from being forced to perform abortions.4 It was another sham. The proposals in Congress do not contain sufficient conscience protections for health care professionals.

That brings us to the second assault on the sanctity of human life by our government. As of this writing, the health care proposals having the most congressional support call for as much as $500 billion to be struck from the Medicare budget.5 That’s half-a-trillion dollars that will not be available to treat the elderly. It will inevitably result in a rationing of medical care and consequently, many of our senior citizens will be allowed to die. Newsweek addressed this likelihood in its cover story of Sept. 21 entitled, “The Case for Killing Granny: Curbing Excessive End-of-Life Care Is Good for America.”6 What this means is, if it becomes law as written, many of the sick and old will be denied desperately needed care. Furthermore, Medicare is rapidly going bankrupt with no solution in sight! What kind of country will this be if the weak, infirm and helpless receive no compassion from those in positions of power? And as seniors depart from this life, what responsibility will we bear if we have remained silent in response to their misery?

Jesus said in Matthew 25: 40- 45 (KJV),

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have doneit unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels: For I was hungry, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee and hungered, or thirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me.

I shudder to think of the divine judgment that could befall us if we allow our politicians, who serve at our pleasure, to begin forcing the American people to pay for the killing of babies while they are turning their backs on the elderly! God forgive us for this wickedness.

Sadly, this radical shift away from scriptural principles is occurring in government at all levels. Here’s another disturbing development by our leaders. In Washington and elsewhere, personnel is policy. The President enjoys tremendous latitude and power in making appointments to high-level positions within his administration. Many of them, called “czars,” are radicals who have quietly assumed power beyond the gaze of the general public. Lately, however, a dozen or more of them have made headlines because of their extreme views.

For example, President Obama has appointed Kevin Jennings as the head of the Office of Safe and Drug Free Schools. He has been called the “Safe Schools Czar.”7 What hypocrisy! Jennings is the founder of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), the largest advocacy group in the nation dedicated entirely to the promotion of homosexuality to students as young as kindergarten age. He has written five books advocating homosexual teaching in the schools and elsewhere, as well as the foreword to a widely publicized book titledQueering Elementary Education.8

Under Jennings’ leadership, his group, GLSEN, has advanced the view that if “a lesbian attends a house of worship that preaches homosexuality as a sin,” she will have encountered “community oppression.”9 In his book titled One Teacher in Ten, Jennings also tells the story of counseling a 15-year-old boy [he later said the boy was 16] who was having sexual relations with an older man whom he had met in a Boston bus stop restroom. Instead of informing authorities of the incident, which was illegal under Massachusetts law, Jennings advised the boy to use a condom.10

Our new education/safe-schools czar also once said that the late Harry Hay, a homosexual Communist and advocate of NAMBLA (North American Man-Boy Love Association) was his inspiration.11 Hay’s vile and wicked support for child abuse was summed up in 1983 when he said, “If the parents and friends of gays are truly friends of gays, they would know from their gay kids that the relationship with an older man is precisely what 13-, 14- and 15-year-old kids need more than anything else in the world.”12

Here’s another quote from the memoir of America’s new Safe Schools Czar. He said, “I got stoned more often and went out to the beach at Bellows overlooking Honolulu Harbor and the lights of the city, to drink with my buddies on Friday and Saturday nights, spending hours watching the planes take off and land at the airport, which is actually quite fascinating when you are drunk and stoned.”13

As this letter was going to print, I learned of yet another appalling discovery relevant to Mr. Jennings. My great friend in Washington, Tony Perkins, President of the Family Research Council, reported that Jennings, just this year, sponsored a pornographic AIDS activist exhibit at Harvard University. “Believe it or not,” Tony reports, “the man in charge of protecting our schools has endorsed a celebration of perversion that includes video pornography, religious defamation, photos of genitalia, and stories of child pornography, cross-dressing, and sadomasochism.”14

By his own admission, Kevin Jennings’ views do not represent the beliefs of millions of American parents who have entrusted their children’s education to our public school system. He said, “Many of the values I hold are alien to my students. I am startled and often surprised at their frequently conservative and rigid remarks regarding sex, recreational drug use, sexuality, and other ‘moral’ issues.”15 How arrogant and bold this man is in contradicting the nation’s moral underpinnings!

Does it concern you to know that Jennings works at the White House and has the ear of the most powerful man on earth, despite the fact that he was never vetted or confirmed by the Senate? Unfortunately, he has many “fellow czars” in the Administration who share his leftist agenda. One of them is Van Jones, the “Green Jobs Czar,” who was forced to resign for his extreme views and writings, having described himself as a “communist” and a “revolutionary” in 1992.16

The beat goes on. President Obama recently appointed Chai Feldblum to serve as one of five commissioners of the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission [EEOC]. Ms. Feldblum is currently a professor of law [gay studies] at Georgetown University. Among her many liberal perspectives, Ms. Feldblum publicly supported polygamy!17

Another radical, Mark Lloyd, has been appointed as the “diversity czar” to the Federal Communications Commission. Last year, he applauded Venezuelan president and dictator Hugo Chavez’s media reform, suggesting that he had directed “really an incredible revolution — a democratic revolution.” This newly appointed “czar” favors ending freedom of speech on talk radio and imposing ruinous fines on radio stations that do not comply with his policies.18 If he is successful in censoring talk radio, that could mark the end of Rush Limbaugh, Sean Hannity, Glenn Beck and, yes, perhaps James Dobson.

As if it couldn’t get any worse, President Obama’s White House communications director, Anita Dunn, once said that Mao Tse-tung was one of her “favorite political philosophers.”19 The late Chinese communist dictator killed untold millions of his own citizens during his 30-year reign.

Ron Bloom, the administration’s manufacturing czar, also appears to be a fan of murderer Mao. Last year, as an executive of the United Steelworkers Union, Mr. Bloom spoke to a forum on the union role in bankruptcy and said, “We kind of agree with Mao that political power comes largely from the barrel of a gun …”20

Are you hearing this information for the first time? If so, it is because the mainstream media will not report the “czar story” to the public. They prefer that you remain uninformed and oblivious.

Here’s a final development that you should know. President Obama spoke recently at a fund-raising event for the Human Rights Campaign and made numerous promises to a crowd of cheering homosexual activists. In his speech that night was a promise to pass so-called “hate crimes” legislation which has passed both chambers of Congress. He also pledged to work toward the overturn of the Defense of Marriage Act and to end the military policy known as “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” He also urged Congress to pass a law extending benefits to domestic partners of federal employees. Finally, in an apparent reference to the nearly 50 percent of Americans who still believe homosexuality is morally wrong, the President articulated, “There’s still laws to change and there’s still hearts to open.’’21

Those of us who disagree with these radical changes in national policy are treated like enemies of the state. We are subjected to distortions and lies by the liberal elites who are determined to reconstruct this nation once and for all.

Fortunately, social conservatives who support traditional morality and values are not alone. There is a powerful movement developing in this country that will not remain silent. The “tea party” phenomenon, for example, has been led by citizens of all persuasions and faiths, and they are gaining in strength and numbers. I am convinced that a significant percentage of these activists are Christians who feel that the Washington establishment has lost touch with their beliefs and concerns. Ultra-liberal minds in Congress and White House operatives intend to keep them quarantined and marginalized. Please join me in praying that God’s people will continue to make their voices heard for the sake of our nation, for the welfare of future generations, and for the propagation of the Gospel.

Although I have shared some disturbing trends in this letter about the direction our culture is moving, there is reason for hope for a return to sanity in our public and private lives. The Lord would not want us to despair. Instead, let’s use our voices to support biblical truth at the ballot box and throughout the culture at large. We must defend our children against those, such as Kevin Jennings, who would warp their impressionable minds. We cannot allow ourselves to become like lepers huddled around the fringes of society. We are an integral part of the government whom Abraham Lincoln described as being “of the people, by the people, and for the people.” That is us, and may we never forget it.

Finally, we must preserve our own family integrity against all the forces allied against it. A good place to start this month is by celebrating a meaningful Thanksgiving Day around a holiday table, where prayer is led before eating and children are honored and loved. We will be doing that in the Dobson household again this year, and I hope you will join us in that spirit.

May the peace of Jesus be upon you and yours.

Sincerely,

James C. Dobson, Ph.D.
Founder and Chairman Emeritus

This letter may be reproduced without change and in its entirety for noncommercial and nonpolitical purposes without prior permission from Focus on the Family.

¹ See: http://www.gallup.com/poll/118399/more-americans-pro-life-than-pro-choice-first-time.aspx² International Communications Research, Sept. 16-20, 2009.³ See: http://www.whitehouse.gov/the_press_office/remarks-by-the-president-to-a-joint-session-of-congress-on-health-care/⁴Ibid.⁵ See: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203517304574303903498159292.html⁶ Evan Thomas, “The Case for Killing Granny: Curbing Excessive End-of-Life Care Is Good for America,” Newsweek, 21 September 2009. See: http://www.newsweek.com/id/215291/page/1.⁷ See: http://washingtontimes.com/news/2009/oct/22/obamas-safe-schools-czar-acts-up/⁸ http://www.humanevents.com/article.php?id=32472⁹ As published in GLSEN student-club manual, defining “community oppression.”¹⁰ Kevin Jennings, One Teacher in 10: Gay and Lesbian Educators Tell Their Stories (Boston: Alyson Publications, 1994); “Obama’s Lewd Schools Czar; Presidential Appointee Continues to Dodge Scrutiny,” The Washington Times, 4 October 2009, p. B2.¹¹ “Obama’s Lewd Schools Czar; Presidential Appointee Continues to Dodge Scrutiny,”¹² Jeffrey Lord, “Democrats Called Foley Guilty of Sex Crimes,”The American Spectator, 9 October 2009.¹³ Kevin Jennings, Mama’s Boy, Preacher’s Son: A Memoir(Boston: Beacon Press, 2006), p. 103; Lisa De Pasquale, “Safe School Czar Kevin Jennings is Unsafe for Schools,” Human Events, 14 October 2009.¹⁴ Tony Perkins, “Exhibiting Poor [Or Is It Porn?] Judgment,” Family Research Council, 22 October 2009.¹⁵ De Pasquale, Ibid.¹⁶ Jack Kelly, “Exit Van Jones,” Pittsburg-Post Gazette, 13 September 2009, p. B3.¹⁷ Ryan T. Anderson, “Beyond Gay Marriage The Stated Goal of these Prominent Gay Activists Is No Longer Merely the Freedom to Live as They Want,” The Daily Standard, 15 August 2006.¹⁸ “Wrong Man for the Job,” Chattanooga Times Free Press, 12 October 2009, p. B7.¹⁹ “What Would Mao Do? White House Press Strategy is About Absolute Control,” The Washington Times, 20 October 2009.²⁰ Fight over Afghanistan; Rating Obama, Losing Support?” Lou Dobbs Tonight, CNN, 20 October 2009.²¹ Christine Simmons, “Obama Reaffirms Will End ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’” Associated Press, 11 October 2009.

“… You and I cannot demonstrate love or joy or peace or patience or kindness sitting all by ourselves on an island.  No, we demonstrate it when the people we have committed to loving give us good reasons NOT to love them, but we do anyway.”

(such a good little book.)

so tru.

the best is yet to come…

oh man.  so a mentor went over a personality test with me.

my results ring so true… ding-dong…

Inclusion

The need to associate with others

Expressed inclusion = 9

Wanted inclusion = 8

Profile: People Gatherer

You are not only out-going but also tend to be compulsively driven toward people.  This does not mean that you can never be alone but it is difficult for you to do so for extended periods of time.  If you become excessively frustrated by people you may escheat to an isolated spot but not for very long.  Your anxiety levels tends to increase and you are again driven back toward people.

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Control

The need to make decisions and assume leadership

Expressed control = 8

Wanted control = 4

Profile: Mission Impossible

You can and do make decisions and take on many responsibilities.  Your self-concept is one of confidence and adequacy, so much so that you walk into area of responsibility where most angels fear to go.  You have such an intense need for recognition that you are compulsively driven to do well.  you are attracted to people who give you the recognition that you desire and to those that do not attempt to control you.

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Affection

The need to become emotionally involved with others

Expressed affection = 8

Wanted affection = 7

Profile: Optimist

You not only initiate warm, close or intimate relationships but you are quite comfortable when others do so with you.  You easily become emotionally involved with others and can be disappointed when others do not return your affection.  Since you seek a large amount of affection you can be frequently disappointed.  You tend to look for constant reassurance that you are loved.  If you were told yesterday that you are loved, you still need to be told again today.  You try harder to obtain affection and when your need is frustrated.  Your optimistic attitude is reflected in the statement, “I’ve been hurt but if I try harder things will work out better next time.”

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some things i’ve realized that it’s how I’m built… how I’m wired.  These are not constants tho, I do see them changing over time and as long as God is transforming them… the sinful aspect of my personality is being burned away, and I see it So Evidently, as clear as Hawaiian oceans.  However, some things can be bent, but not really replaced.

may Christ become more and more and I less and less.  its where true joy is found.